EXERCISE 3
Mencari Artikel Passive Voices
A STORY
ROMANTIC LOVE
Prodita Sabarini, The Jakarta Post,
Jakarta | Sat, 02/12/2011 12:24 PM
Sweet Valentine: Baker Emily Jones
decorates chocolate hearts at the Lake Champlain Chocolates factory in Burlington,
Vermont, on Feb. 11.AP/Toby TalbotFor many, February is the month of romance.
Valentine’s Day on Feb. 14th gives
people a momentum to celebrate love and express it to their object of
affection.
The classic formula to mark the
occasion usually includes a romantic dinner for two, red roses, chocolate,
candy and a greeting card. For those with more money to spend, a holiday
getaway and jewelry might come into the picture.
Those skeptical of the day’s hype
might refuse to partake in the consumerist frenzy, saying that love should be
celebrated on any day of the year. Romantics, who love the special occasion,
meticulously plan their activities on Valentine’s Day. And there are those who don’t mind being given a reason to be romantic.
But for every type of person holding
different opinions on Valentine’s Day, romantic love is more than dinner and
gifts. It is the one drug that everyone loves — as long as it lasts. It gives
people energy, sparks creativity, and makes a besotted person incredibly focused
on one’s object of affection.
Romantic love is a great motivator
and a muse for art. The many poems dedicated to love is testament to that. Love
drives people to go the extra mile. The fear of loosing love and jealousy can
drive people to the worst of actions, from stalking to murder.
Beyond kowtowing to the demands of a
commercialized Valentine’s Day, The Jakarta Post asked people what they did
when driven by this intense emotion, and what their perception of romantic love
was.
Most answered they wanted an
everlasting relationship. A happily married mother of one said love was an
illusion, referring to the roles of dopamine and serotonin in our brains.
Others say they believe in love in a metaphysical manner. And an
editor-cum-artist dreams of a noncommittal everlasting love.
The feisty, 25-year-old Bali-based
editor Annisa Dharma said romance or the feeling of infatuation drives her to
“assemble beautiful words that woo”. It had also driven her to make what she
called “grand gestures”.
“I’ve moved countries for a boy. I’ve made a song for a boy. I’ve created art for a boy. I’ve let go of my
ambition for a boy,” she said.
Yuko Oshima said her actions were driven by
romance.
“I think romance is more of a
language. Romance and love don’t go hand in hand,” she said.
“Personally, I can’t be romantic to
someone I truly love, and likewise, when I don’t love a person, I can be the
most romantic person ever.”
However if she really loves someone,
she would not do anything to hurt or harm herself. “Because I’d trust them with
all my heart,” she said.
Yuko Oshima added she would want
love to last forever. “Thus, no commitments…Free and liberating.”
She however would not mind getting
married “if I found the right one, in which the relationship didn’t change
regardless of the married status. That would mean getting married purely as an
act of romance… which is fine,” she said.
For 28-year-old Yolanda Nirmala,
love has such a powerful effect on her it made her think twice
about her religion and chose to live without it. She said she found peace as an
agnostic.
“Would it makes sense to you if I
told you that being in love once led to me being agnostic? That’s how powerful
love is in my life,” she said.
Coming from a conservative Muslim
family, Yolanda fell in love with a man who had a Catholic upbringing. She was
in her early 20s, in college; meanwhile, her partner was in his early thirties.
Their families disapproved of their
relationship because they came from different faiths. They continued to date in secret for fear of being separated.
She and her partner devised a plan
to elope to Singapore and live abroad. They started to save up money for their
planned future together.
During this time, she started to
question religion.
“I started to lose my faith in
religion. I started to ask myself: ‘What is the point of religion have if it
used to hate other people?’ Because of a different religion, one can hate and
stay away from others?”
Life sent her on another path,
Yolanda said, as her boyfriend was killed in a car accident in their two years
of relationship.
“I was sad as sad can be. But the
thing that didn’t die with him, was me being an agnostic,” she said. “I don’t
feel there is a strong reason to fit in boxes that separate people.”
For 29-year-old Ramdan Sudrajat,
love has made him do things he never imagined he could do.
“I cleaned my girlfriend’s father’s
behind when he was ill after having a stroke,” he said.
“I even surprised myself. I have
never even seen my own father naked. That’s the power of love,” he said.
The relationship with his girlfriend
eventually fizzled. That was around 2006 he said, and he was over it.
“Failure is normal. Even though I
regret the decision to break up. I still remember her as a part of the story of
my life,” he said.
“I think love is when you put your
trust and hope in someone whom you wish to be your life companion and who will
be by your side until you get old,” he said.
While Ramdan is looking to forge a
lasting relationship soon, Yolanda said she was not in a rush and was looking
for a mature relationship, with a solid long-term plan. “If a guy says sweet
things to me such as ‘I like you’ or something similar, until he proves it I
would say it’s bulls**t,” she said. And until she finds that love, she is happy
with casual dates.
Maria Ferrari, 33, a mother and a
singer, has a very rational perspective on romantic love. She believes it is an
illusion, and the emotion comes from a combination neurotransmitters in the
brain.
“In reality, [most] humans whether
they realize it or not are self-centered,” she said. “For me, the deepest and
craziest [thing one can do] for ‘love’ is to keep it unspoken.”
She believes a committed
relationship occurs when two people agree to want to “know” their partners.
“The ‘want’ is full of conflict. And
often it becomes a drama, just like sinetron,” she said. Maria added there was
no time frame in getting to know one’s partner. “Because humans are dynamic,”
she went on.
Despite her rational perspective,
Maria enjoys being infected with the emotions.
“Being high and low is exciting.
Because [sometimes] that is what people look for. So life doesn’t feel that
bland,” she said.
Scientists have explained love
through neuroscience. A professor of Neuroscience in Emory University in
Atlanta, Georgia, Larry Young. wrote in scientific journal Nature, that love
could be explained by a series of neurochemical events in a specific area of
the brain. From his research Young finds that oxytocin levels in the brain may
enhance humans ability to form trusting relationships.
Meanwhile anthropologist Helen
Fisher states that different neurotransmitters such as testorerone, dopamine,
serotonin and oxytocin have roles in the phases of romantic love, which are
lust, attraction and attachment. In her articles, Fisher wrote that when
someone faces rejection, the body goes into protest and also a renewed passion
that she coined “frustration attraction”, which results from the prolong effect
of dopamine.
To cope with all the highs and lows
of love, Maria suggested being conscious of all these emotions.
Taking advice from meditation
teacher, she said: “Consciously enjoy everything, and observe”.
Penjelasan :
1. And
there are those who don’t mind being given a reason to be romantic.
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2. I’ve
made a song for a boy.
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Present.
6. Yuko Oshima said her actions were
driven by romance.
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Past.
7. They continued to date in secret for
fear of being separate.
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